Saturday, March 20, 2010

I am a stalker

I've seen a similar post on a few of my bloggy friends' blogs, so this may just be completely normal.

Adoption has turned me into a stalker.

Other than filling out paperwork correctly, we have no control over anything in this process.

In theory, I could just wait until one day out of the blue we get that phone call saying our son is ready to come home.

But the control freak in me can't. Instead, I am obsessed with other people's timelines. I try to guess when every step will happen for us based on what I know about others. Which of course is impossible, because with adoption, timeframes aren't that predictable and things tend to happen that delay quite a few of us. Only it's always something different. For one person it may be a delayed I600, for another lost paperwork. Some of us will wait forever on EP, and others on the visa medical. There are general timeframes, but predicting my own timeline until travel might be almost impossible. But that doesn't mean that I will stop trying.

Now I'm off to see if anyone has updated their timeline on the Holt BB.


  1. Don't feel bad. I've been "stalking" other people's blogs for a while now. It makes the waiting so much easier. Seeing other people with their little ones always reminded me that it would happen!!

  2. Soooo glad I'm not the only one!!!

  3. Totally not alone. The first step is always to admit you have a problem..haha :) At least that's what my hubby says to me!

  4. ha ha. i am a former stalker but not quite fully recovered. :)